BOOK REVIEW - CHANEL BONFIRE by, WENDY LAWLESS

NARCISSISTIC SUPPLY

I don't know who coined that phrase, Narcissistic Supply, but it's a good one.  Every narcissistic personality is compelled to achieve access to persons they can manipulate or harm; exercising power and control over the less powerful that are victimized into a dependent status so that the perpetrator-narcissist is seen as the most important and central force in that made-up universe.  God calls this violence - violence that reflects satan the father of lies.  Not always with fists, but with sophisticated and malevolent intent, strategy and behavior for which satan and subsequently his demon followers lost their position in the Kingdom of God.   By the abundance of your trade you were internally filled with violence, and you sinned; therefore I have cast you as profane from the mountain of God (Ezekiel 28: 16a) Also: More of the story... Revelation 12:7-11  In behavior the narcissist commits the same crime and reflects in that satanic intent the personality of evil.  In other words... playing God and wanting to be a god, which was Lucifer's sin and also... original sin.
 
Children make their entrance into the world needing nurture and care to survive.  In a poignant and powerful account of a childhood lived at the mercy of a narcissistic parent Wendy Lawless does an excellent job of lifting the curtain without belaboring what she suffered via a fog of bitterness.  Chanel Bonfire is an important book.  Not only a moving read, but a wise account of survival and victory over the satanic influence of such a vehicle. 

In my new book, Discerning Spirits: Visionary Gifts in Practice I discuss this topic since many narcissistic people find the church, as well as politics, the perfect environment (artificial hot house) into which they can act out their crimes unchallenged.  A sad commentary on too many American churches, neither "cold nor hot" but oh so politically correct and insular.  Some churches are quickly left - they have radar and discernment for these damaged people.  Not able to tolerate censure they move on until they find one that is unhealthy enough to sustain the self-image of self sufficiency and perfection - basically never wrong. 
 
I picked up the Wendy Lawless book at my local library and at the same time, "coincidentally" picked up A Stolen Life, by Jaycee Dugard.  Between the two authors is a picture, one male and one female, one a convicted sex offender and pedophile juxtaposed with Wendy's jailer, a charming female extrovert forever, in her own mind, the central figure on the stage of life and equally operating within the lethal disease of narcissism.  
 
While I recommend both books, I was especially moved by Wendy's portrayal of her mother.  Wendy lets us feel and see the process of her survival, co-dependency, abandonment in the failure of others to recognize her circumstances and then the heroic sacrifice and victory within the construct of crimes that would never be prosecuted as Jaycee Dugard's perpetrator was.  Both women let us see that they have been profoundly changed by their experiences and yet are not defined by the crimes of those that obsessively sought to remake  them as  selfish ego-fodder.  Jaycee further suffered religious abuse and so, reading between the lines, we understand her distrust of God.  Jesus, speaking about future judgment, had this to say about such actions.  ...but whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in Me to stumble, it would be better for him to have a heavy millstone hung around his neck, and to be drowned in the depth of the sea (Matthew 18: 6).

I am certain that both women, because of what they experienced, are wary and discerning about those they meet as they negotiate life.  God created them to be marvelously far more than the nightmare they lived.    

Chanel Bonfire is not only a clever title, but it's content would be personally helpful and instructionally insightful as both a powerful account and a cautionary lesson.  I finished this book in one day if that tells you anything.  Should have been working on the documentary companion to my new book, but...   
 

Thank you to both women for sharing their stories.  It takes courage and a certain healing defiance of the perpetrator that secrets are deadly, but the "truth shall set you free."  God loves you!!! 

In my book, Discerning Spirits, we look at narcissism via the central characters in four films allowing my readers to build a protocol of recognition.  Discerning Spirits by, Alexandra Clair is available for download on Kindle, Nook, and Screw Pulp.  Soft cover at Amazon, but also... order from any book store.  E-version only 2.99 and soft cover 12.00. 

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